I had picked up this week’s “Singles Issue” of Time Out New York, and was intrigued by this article. It kinda conjured up memories of my San Francisco trip, where people seemed surprised that I was dining by myself. (I was there solo for the last coupla days of my trip…) Or when people said to me “you’re so brave” if I go to a bar or party solo, sans wing-people.
In a way, I don’t get what the big deal is. There are times when it’s nice to call the shots as to what you want to eat/drink…or if you meet someone, you don’t have to worry as much about abandoning a friend…hell, there have been a couple of times where I just wanted to go sit at the bar, have a drink to toast myself/chase off an uncomfortable happy hour/just for the hell of it. And it’s nice during the spring/summer to sit outside at a wine bar, sip a glass and read a magazine/people-watch. And what I have heard before, is that guys are more likely to approach a girl who’s solo than try and infiltrate a group of girls.
But on the flip side…I do feel a little self-conscious, like they’re all thinking “she’s here solo, what’s wrong with her.” (Never mind that they probably don’t know that I just didn’t feel like staying at home because everyone else was either with spending time with significant others/out on “date night”/just not feeling a night out/don’t like the suggested scene or venue.)
Maybe I’m making too big a deal of this, but I thought this was good blog material 🙂 And would be interested to hear other thoughts!!