some things never change

ya know, i haven’t had a jdate post in awhile…

so I have this picture on my profile. and yesterday, I was a recipient of a one-sentence email which said:

“what’s a nice jewish girl doing on santa’s lap? “

not even worth the effort to reply and say that said santa is actually jewish.

and while i am at it, why is it the only guys who either view my profile or contact me are either under 30, or in their late 40s or older, and/or do not live in the NYC area?

I swear, what part of “i am looking for a guy between x age and y age?” and “i am not willing to relocate” do these people NOT understand???

I viewed a guy’s profile yesterday that started with “OK – I put the age requirement in – but either it is disregarded or unread, so putting it as the first line in my profile.” Maybe he’s got the right idea…

man, i hate dating.

the numbers game

with no prospects in the horizon, decided to tweak my JDate profile a little bit. we’ll see if anything happens with that, but related to that-and online dating-there was something on my mind…that I had also heard others talking about too…

Unlike most online dating profiles, JDate does have a spot where you can list your weight. I have always decided to plead the fifth on that. First off-it’s really no one’s business what my exact weight is (and can always change based on things like time of month, etc…)

But moreso…it seems like guys are so hung up on the numbers-they expect girls to be super skinny, won’t date someone above a certain weight or BMI…and honestly, considering I am probably 10-15 pounds heavier than what guys consider acceptable for my height (not due to laziness though-just bad genes)…I am sorta afraid that the number would be a turnoff. Instead, I hope the fact that I mention an active lifestyle (e.g., marathon running)-and that I have halfway decent pictures-would make up for that. Or does it?

Yeah I know. If a guy would judge me based on a number, I wouldn’t want to be with him anyway. But guys, please convince me you’re not all like that.

those who can’t do, write

The other day at work, I helped one of my colleagues write a match.com profile. (Funny thing about said colleague-his profile showed up once in my JDate search prefs a couple years back-and vice versa. Back then I was like “oh shit” when I saw he viewed my profile, now we just laugh at it. I actually was surprised that he showed up in my prefs…back then we couldn’t stand each other, he’s gotten nicer now.)

I have never laughed so hard at one of those things. Basically, the point was to poke fun at all online dating profiles-that they all say the same thing and if anyone can see past the sarcasm in the profile, to contact him. (my favorite part that I contributed was saying that the last book he read was the “T & E guidelines and sexual harassment manual.” teehee.) Anyway, it all got past the match.com censors.

Kinda reminded me of something of mine that didn’t get past online dating censors that I meant to blog about for awhile but for whatever reason, didn’t. On another site, I wanted to put up a running picture of me…but I wanted to make it one I actually liked (I’m not always crazy about all my running pictures) and one that I can easily white out the number and if I have a Flyer logo on, that it’s not easy to see. So I tried this one from last year’s Club Champs.

And wouldn’t you know, it gets rejected by the censors-due to showing too much skin in the picture. Excuse me? They can accept pictures of guys wearing nothing but Speedos…it’s not like I had a wardrobe malfunction in that pic or something, I was decently covered!!

Maybe I oughta try again-this time use a picture where I’m wearing the naked shorts. teehee.

now playing: “don’t bother” ~ shakira

and because there hasn’t been a jdate post in a long time

there was a guy, about a couple of years ago, that i met on one of those non-jdate dating sites, that i was pretty into, then he ditched me because i wouldn’t sleep with him soon enough. (lotta class, this one had.)

is it just wrong that i took such satisfaction at seeing that he recently created a jdate profile? (oh yeah…he wasn’t jewish.)

(btw-this isn’t *the* dating post.)

running underwater

well the mercury did decide to creep down a few notches the last coupla nites, but the humidity has just been deadly. well Monday nite’s easy 5.1 was actually pretty good, but I felt like I was running in a pool or something last nite at speedwork. (not that i’ve tried pool running before, i’m just guessing.) our workout started around east 86th…sprint to the Obelisk (around 79th?), stride down Cat Hill to the Boathouse, sprint back up Cat Hill to the Obelisk, then jog back to 86th. And I repeated this 2 more times (with a final sprint to the Obelisk and back for good measure.)

I felt a little off, but that was to be expected given the conditions. My one rant about the workout is how extremely crowded the park is getting on Tuesday nights. I see several of the local running/multisport teams out there…in addition to the NYRR running classes, Team in Training…it seems like no one knows how to share the rec lane, we’re being forced out onto the main road and get yelled at by bikers. Or when I had started my last Cat Hill repeat, someone who wasnt looking ran right in my path and I had to stop short…sorta “broke my stride,” so to say. I know as great as it is that running is so popular, there had to be a drawback somewhere. besides a few lessons in runner etiquette, what can be done to solve the “crowding” issue? Nature of the beast, i guess.

in addition, a (sorta) dating rant (if you don’t want to hear it, don’t read any further-thanks in advance)…last nite I logged into JDate to see if any interesting suitors had viewed my profile lately…anyone worthy enough for me to consider paying again. Didn’t see any of that, but what I did see was that The Ex-Boyfriend’s best friend had viewed my profile. Great. Now he is going to tell my happily married Ex that I am still a big single loser.

Outside, I’m calm. Inside, I’m screaming.

talk talk talk talk talk

ok, now i’m convinced i did the right thing suspending my premium JDate membership for awhile.

the latest was one that contacted me via a “click” so i called him last nite. we spoke for 30 minutes. actually wait, let me clarify that. he spoke for about 28 minutes. i spoke for about 2 minutes. you get the idea. don’t think i will be meeting this one in person.

is it too much to ask to meet/date a guy who can actually listen and let the girl get more than a word in edgewise? this wouldn’t be the first time…so it’s sorta getting old.

happy long weekend everyone! (i need this one big time…)

now playing: “little red corvette” ~ prince

from the jdate trash bin

was cleaning out the JDate inbox and came across this gem. Please everyone, make sure this is on your list of “what not to do when sending online dating messages.”

From a “missed IM”:

hello. why do u ignore me. i dont get it. im not your tpye?. what’s the deal?. i look a lot better than my pic anyway. im good lookin dude.

OK, first off dood, I wasn’t ignoring you, I didn’t have a paid membership at the time-therefore, I couldn’t have responded even if I wanted to. (looks like he sent a previous message that us freebie members would not have been able to access!)

Second…spell/grammar check. Learn it. Live it. Love it.

cutback

yeah, this is a cutback week for me. sadly, not by choice. work has been kicking my a$$ so much this week, that it looks like last nite was the only nite i was able to escape in time to make it out for a group run. and lately, AM runs have been out of the question, it’s been a chore just to get out of bed by 7:30 am at the latest. is it me, or am i the only person in NYC that can’t seem to survive on only 5-6 hours sleep per night? i’m sorry, but it’s just not feasible for me to be in bed by 9-10 pm each night…how am i supposed to get everything that i need to get done, done? or maybe i really am getting old.

so between my workload and the predicted snow this weekend, looks like my total for the week will be 5.5 miles (yesterday’s run.) blah.

sorry if i’m venting, but to quote what i’ve said elsewhere, if every single blog was filled with nothing but happy cute fluffy bunny posts, it’d be pretty boring, right? (and anyone that deliriously happy all the time is either lying, or on something.) But if happy cute fluffy bunny posts are what you want to see, check out CuteOverload.com (thanks to jbl for the link!)

well, at least there was one highlight this week…which was tuesday nite’s “Chinese New Year” dinner that the Flyers have every year at Lili’s. (got out of work too late to do speedwork, but an 8pm dinner was feasible…) Food was good (as usual,) company was good (as usual,) the amusing part was that a bunch of us were trying to re-create our table from last year-right down to the exact seats we sat in and our host was very generous with giving out shots of sake. it’s like he knew i needed ‘em or something.

2 other things i managed to get done this week-i changed my profile pic (how’s this one compared to the old one-yay or nay?) and canceled my premium JDate membership. was getting nowhere with that one. maybe i’ll try match.com next. certainly a little cheaper than JDate…

now playing: “lola’s theme (extended vocal mix)” ~ shape:uk

jdate-less

ok, a coupla weeks ago i bit the bullet again and decided to pay for JDate for another month…figured it wouldn’t hurt to give it one more try. meh. no luck this time around. i am sorta amused by getting contacted by the same guy three times, with the exact same email:

I thought your profile was quite intriguing, and the powers at Jdate tell me you are one of my “special matches”. To date, their “special matches” have been, less than spectacular. I am starting to think that my mother is actually making these picks in secret. Since you are far superior to my other “matches” and and seem particularly worth finding out about, drop me a line. Incidentally, I note, with respect to my B-day which was a couple of months ago, I have not yet received a gift, a call, not so much as a card from you. What happened? Curious. lol

um…yeah. gotta love the “form letters.” or not.

stretching the truth

hmmm…gotta love when you browse online dating sites, and see others you know. or do you?

so i’m looking at JDate, and i think i may have stumbled upon the profile of a lawyer that i went out on a date with last month. the pictures looked like him, the profile sounded like him, only thing not meshing is the age…looks like he is a few years younger on his profile. (and let’s just say that “few years younger” was enough to make his age begin with a “3.”) if that really was him…don’t know if he was stretching the truth on his profile…or to me…whatever. but…

is it really worth it to lie about things like age, occupation, etc…on an online dating profile? you know it will just catch up with you if you intend to ever be serious about anyone you date through those sites…

(and those people are always the ones that want “trust, respect and honesty” from a relationship…right?)

"you got mail"

Those words. They just seem to tease at times, don’t they?

So I’m browsing JDate last nite…seeing if there is anything interesting amidst the usual mishmash of profiles. One really, really caught my eye-someone that really seemed ideal for me. So much that I sent a “flirt” (which I usually never do…usually if a profile seems interesting, I just “hotlist” him) but as in the past, didn’t expect to hear anything in return. So this morning, I see an email notification that he did email me through the site-but as a non-paying member, I can’t read it. Yeah, the JDate police decided to give poor singles the smackdown 2 years ago and charge just to read messages. So I have over 100 messages from the last 2 years that have never been read. And I’m wondering if it may be worth it to pay for one month and contact my little heart out-to him and others- and see what happens…I didn’t have much luck last time I did, then again that was 3 1/2 years ago…a lot has changed since then. I think online dating is a crapshoot…like anything else.

Did 4 miles on the rez this morning-man it was chilly. Had to break out the tights (capri tights, but still) for the first time since May. I think I will be fine Sunday, I’m not expecting any great time or whatever…heck, I might even bring the mp3 player, even though it’s a short race. It’s gonna be so damn crowded I think I’m gonna need my music to distract (but not too loud, of course.)

Excited for tonite and tomorrow…tonite is a farewell bar night for one of our teammates-great guy, we’re sorry to see him go-only been with the Flyers for 6 months but has done so much. And EB is already taking bets on who I will smooch…or vice versa…at tomorrow’s party (not that I’m overly proud of that!) Oh boy… (no pun intended!)

DISCLAIMER: In case some parts of this post has been misinterpreted…please read what I have written in the comments-thanks!!

now playing: “gotta get through this” ~ daniel bedingfield